The Biblical Design of Gender, Part 35

Deuteronomy 22:5
5 “A woman shall not wear anything that pertains to a man, nor shall a man put on a woman’s garment, for all who do so are an abomination to the Lord your God.

We attend Church to obtain the mind of Christ, meaning, to have the Bible illuminated in our minds so that we can clearly understand the principles that Jesus taught and base our daily personal decisions on those principles.

We come to Church because we want to be obedient to the Bible, which is the doctrine of Jesus Christ, in an informed, insightful and intelligent manner.

God has designed man as the cooperative coalition of husband and wife so that man can successfully achieve the objective that God has given us to exercise dominion over the earth, developing wisdom and knowledge in preparation for further responsibility in our eternal life.

Genesis 2:18
18 And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone;…

An application of the Golden Rule is called the Thirty-Day Plan. The Thirty-Day plan came about from the fact that the questioner and their spouse became “enemies” when they disagreed about something and each wanted their way.

The Counselor advised the questioner to try the “Thirty-Day Plan”, which was to spend thirty days going along with any desire or interest that their spouse expressed rather than arguing or demanding to have their own way. The purpose was to determine whether being agreeable would improve the marriage. So, for thirty days, if their spouse wanted Italian food for dinner and they wanted Chinese, they should agree with the choice of Italian and see whether their acquiescence improved their marriage or not.

After being agreeable for thirty days the questioner was to report back the results.

Part 1

Gail said, “The phrase “sleeping with the enemy” so epitomized my relationship with my husband. The other night, after a heated argument, which I am ashamed to say occurred in front of my seven-year old, I decided to try…

Lauren was discussing life with her counselor. She said, “I’m in a great relationship. I met him right after college, and we’ve been dating for three years. Recently, quite a few of our couple friends have gotten engaged. They’re a couple of years older than I am, but…”

The Counselor interrupted, “May I ask you how old you are and how old he is?”

Lauren replied, “I’m turning twenty-five next month, and he just turned thirty.”

The Counselor questioned, “Has he been married, divorced, or produced any children?”

“Absolutely not”, Lauren replied.

The Counselor asked, “Are you sexually intimate with him?”

“Yes”, said Lauren “I am.”

The Counselor queried, “Have you ever gotten pregnant by him?”

“No”, said Lauren “We’re very good about that. We’re very careful.”

The Counselor replied, “Well, every form of birth control has a failure rate.”

Lauren responded, “Very true.”

“Okay”, said the Counselor. “Tell me your situation.”

Lauren started, “Now, I’m kind of worried. We’ve never actually talked about getting married or anything like that…”

“Well”, said the Counselor, “may…

A certain woman had a favorite author. The author wrote a new book, and the woman found out that the author was coming to her town to participate in a book signing at the local Walmart. The book signing was from 7 to 10pm. Her husband usually got home from work about 6:30, and her plan was to make dinner, start feeding the kids, a three and one year old, and then leave as soon as he came home. She hoped that if she got to the Walmart at 7pm, she could get out of there and get home in an hour or so.

When her husband came home that evening, he wasn’t too pleased with her plan. “I’ll just be gone for an hour or so”, said the woman. “Just feed the kids and play with them and I’ll be back as soon as I can.”

When the woman reached the Walmart and went inside, she saw that the line for the book signing stretched up the aisle and around the wall of the…

If you have any questions, comments or criticisms on this or any other topic, please feel free to let me know. It is easier for me to pick topics if I have your feedback. Thanks again for reading. I hope that you find a blessing here, and may the Lord be with you.

Let me start off by saying that I am not a financial advisor,  nor am I licensed to give financial advice. This blog is the result of a conversation that I had, and before you make any action based upon my advice,  I would advise you to talk to your lender.

I was talking to a employee of a credit card company today, and she gave me this information, which I hope is correct. I thought that it might be of interest to some of you. I’m using round numbers here for the purposes of clarity.

Suppose you owe a credit card company $1000, and you have a certain annual percentage rate (APR). Make up any APR you want.

Now, although your…

This is an excerpt from my sermon of 3/21/10. You can read or listen to the entire sermon at

http://www.familylifebc.com/media/launch.php?mid=2E79W1PY4I4PS81Q59T3S13K

Ephesians 6:4:
4 And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.

And young men count on older men to be leaders. A father that lived in southern California had a daughter who was his pride and joy. She developed into a beautiful young woman that attracted the attention of a young man that seemed to be an upstanding fellow. After the young man graduated from high school, he got a job and began going to community college while courting the young lady. After a couple of years of working and going to school, the young man moved out of his parent’s home and rented an apartment. He invited his girlfriend to move in with him, and she came home to tell her Dad.

At first, Dad was uncertain as to what to do. He liked the young fellow, and…

If you have any questions, comments or criticisms on this or any other topic, please feel free to let me know. It is easier for me to pick topics if I have your feedback. Thanks again for reading. I hope that you find a blessing here, and may the Lord be with you.

I recently came across a Facebook discussion concerning abortion. A woman, who was pregnant out of wedlock and who claimed to have a medical condition that made childbearing risky for her, posted a video blog as the abortifacient that she took to kill her unborn child was working. In her video blog, which she posted to communicate her experience to other women, she repeatedly said that the abortion was “not that bad” and that she was not feeling any discomfort.

In my sermon, The Biblical Design of Gender, Part 2, which is posted on my website, I discussed the issue of abortion. Let me excerpt my sermon for you in this blog entry.

Now, in Genesis 2:17:
17 but of the tree…

This blog entry is answering a question about my fourteenth sermon on the Biblical Design of Gender that Renee asked me, which was: “People want all this luvyduby stuff without the cost of conflict, but if you can come through the conflict, the love can and will grow stronger. Of course it has to be reasonable, not no dumb stuff like he punching me in the face or cheating on me. What are your thoughts on that for staying in the crucible??”

Renee – I believe that the Bible is an owner’s manual for interpersonal relationships. So let me try to explain that which I think God is saying.

God’s prime directive is for fruitful multiplication. That’s the first thing He tells us to do. (Genesis 1:28) God created men, and then He created women to facilitate multiplication (Genesis 2:22-23).

Women function differently than men, by God’s design. Women have a hormone in their endocrine systems called oxytocin. Oxytocin creates a psychological bond between a woman and the man with whom she has intimate physical…

            If you have any questions, comments or criticisms on this or any other topic, please feel free to let me know. It is easier for me to pick topics if I have your feedback. Thanks again for reading. I hope that you find a blessing here, and may the Lord be with you.

            In a counseling journal, I read the interesting case of a woman who obtained evidence that her husband was having an affair with a co-worker. The woman confronted her husband, who was contrite and promised to immediately cease the affair and break off with the other woman. The couple went into marital counseling, discussed the situation thoroughly, and at the end of the counseling, the man promised to be faithful to his wife.

            Six months went by, and the woman began to be suspicious of her husband. It was not for any reason that she could objectively state; her husband went to work on time every morning, came home on time every night, and never went out without his…

If you have any questions, comments or criticisms on this or any other topic, please feel free to let me know. It is easier for me to pick topics if I have your feedback. Thanks again for reading. I hope that you find a blessing here, and may the Lord be with you.

In response to my first blog on participation in school sex education class, someone told me that they thought that the school sex education curriculum helped their children make informed choices about sex. The reason, in their opinion, that children need to be informed about sex by the schools is that children as young as nine years old are having sex. The person did acknowledge that the schools only teach the mechanics of sex, not the morality of sexuality. The following was my response:

Your point about nine-year-olds having sex makes my point about not allowing your children in school sex education programs exactly. The school sex education program tells your children how to have sex and may nominally discourage them…