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The Illogic of Comprehensive Sex Education, Part 2

  • February 3rd, 2010 by Pastor Darryl Curtis   |  2 Comments

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In response to my first blog on participation in school sex education class, someone told me that they thought that the school sex education curriculum helped their children make informed choices about sex. The reason, in their opinion, that children need to be informed about sex by the schools is that children as young as nine years old are having sex. The person did acknowledge that the schools only teach the mechanics of sex, not the morality of sexuality. The following was my response:

Your point about nine-year-olds having sex makes my point about not allowing your children in school sex education programs exactly. The school sex education program tells your children how to have sex and may nominally discourage them from doing so, but the school sex education program also tacitly encourages children to have sex, which is why nine-year-old children are having sex. When I was nine, I would not have conceived of having sex; I don’t think that I even liked girls at that age, but now, children receive sex education at younger and younger ages, so children begin sexual activity at younger and younger ages. The children are just doing that which they are taught.

Parents cannot successfully abdicate their responsibility to parent to the schools. They can hope that the schools will parent for them, but they will generally be disappointed, because the schools will not do so. But I can tell you how to keep your children from having sex. To implement my methods will cause a lifestyle change for most families, but my methods are extremely effective.

Have you ever heard of a chaperone? A chaperone is an adult that accompanies female children and teenagers when they participate in social occasions to make sure that the male children and teenagers with whom they interact stay within bounds. And it works. You can be pretty sure that your children won’t have sex if you or some other responsible adult are watching them. And chaperoning your children is not unrealistic even in this day and age. It just calls for a lifestyle change. Parents can decide to actually supervise their own children and not delegate the responsibility to anyone that they do not trust to do the job well.

Have you ever heard of single-sex education, also known as all-girls schools and all-boys schools? Such schools discourage sexual activity very well. Very little to no sex between girls and boys can go on in a school in which there are only members of one sex. And single sex schools are realistic, even in this day and age. It just calls for a lifestyle change.

So, there are realistic methods to raise children to be sexually pure. Of course, the methods may be more trouble than some people want to take. They prefer to take their chances with giving their children information about sex and allowing the children to make their own decisions. And more and more children make the informed decision to have abortions, contract sexually transmitted diseases and bear illegitimate children. But any reasonable adult should expect their immature, self-centered children to make poor decisions, informed or not, which is why adults need to take the decision as to whether or not to have sex out of their children’s immature hands by supervising them.

Children do not need comprehensive sex education. Children need comprehensive hands-on parenting.

I realize that some parents may be too busy with their own lives to parent comprehensively, and that my point of view is counter culture, but did you ever stop to think that the culture may be wrong for your child? My father used to ask me, “If everyone else jumps off of the bridge, does that mean that you have to jump off of the bridge as well?” The fact that “everyone does it” does not make it right.

It’s time to stop defending your position about delegating your children’s moral education to the schools. It’s time to stop and think about what you are actually doing, rather than just following the crowd. If your objective is to have your child reach chronological maturity without a sexual history, does it actually make any sense to delegate their moral teaching to the schools, which are teaching children as young as nine to have sex, even if all your peers do so?

Think, and put your children’s welfare first.

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2 Responses for "The Illogic of Comprehensive Sex Education, Part 2"

  1. Shevrae August 13th, 2010 at 10:54 pm

    God bless you sir! My husband and I have 4 daughters (he’s a very lucky man :). They are still young, but we have already decided on a strict dating policy for them – no dating until 16 and then chaperoned dates only. My parents
    let me start dating way too early and allowed me way too much freedom. I don’t know what they were thinking. Please parents protect the precious sons and daughters the Lord has given to you!

  2. Mark Valladao March 25th, 2010 at 5:35 am

    I agree that the parents should teach at the appropriate time about sex education. But I think the time and energy to show or guide kids to healthy ways of socializing outside the passionate activities is needed. The bombardment of sex in medias where sex is seen as the natural part of a dating relationship has much to do with the problem today. I agree obedience to their parents should stop them but the family in this society, sadly to say even among believers, is under attack and talking is not enough anymore. If it ever was. I am also against sex education by schools for the same reasons you are.


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